For a while this topic has been buzzing in my mind, calling to speak it out loud. I have been clenching my teeth and in deep dislike, reading and hearing these words: “You are Enough”, “I'm enough” “Feeling that you are not enough”. I often see it used in relation to motherhood but not exclusively. In every cell of my body I feel like screaming: Of course I'm enough! What made you think there is a need to reinforce this to me?! I'm the best mom my son can have and there is no doubt in my being about this, so why the need to keep propagating enoughness as an act of kindness or a goal to pursue? Yes, moms have days where everything seems like too much to handle, that you are breaking down, that you haven’t done anything else with your life except care for your child(children), where you feel guilty for not paying enough attention to your kids, or you have to be away from them, when you feel like going to bed and crying all day and want to be pampered and appreciated and a minute of peace but can’t decompress, etc… of course you are enough! You are human and as any human, you get those moments(sometimes seasons), welcome to being human in the modern day!
As I reflect on this topic; finally sitting down to write, and in my act of making these words disappear, something shifted. I found my disguised Im not enough!!! I might not relate with this when it comes to motherhood but there are so many areas that this was present in my life on a closer look.
Since childhood we have been living in society, absorbing and making ours the conversations we hear, what we observe, what is model to us; and to please, fit in, belong or just accept as the norm, we accept concepts as our reality in conscious and unconscious levels. One of the stories I constantly told myself is that many of these things must be truth because they were not told directly to me, they were talked as a societal norm, people seemed to agree, no one came and said: hey, I don’t see it that way or I don’t agree with that. Even though this wasn’t told to me it was about parts I identify as mine—> One of the things that remind me to teach my son that is important to speak up when there is something unfair, unkind or an inflexible point of view said or done in daily live, indifference is so uncool son.
Here are a few of the 'I'm not good enough' things I heard constantly, some come from childhood and others are more recent, truly these messages are always around if we want to access them or rise above them:
“My body must be gross because my stretch marks or x, y, z.” “People with this body type can’t wear this or that” “Tattoos or piercing don’t look professional” “You don’t need help, you can figure it out yourself because you are smart” “You are not good enough to be the girlfriend of x, y, z” “You are not a good enough of a business person because x, y, z” “people don’t want what you offer, they just want a quick fix and only what is covered by insurance” What are your 'I'm not enough's in life???
All of these examples may be irrelevant to you, we all have our own “Im not enough” or “Im just enough” in different areas of our lives that we have embraced as our story to certain degrees. The questions is: is this serving you today? Are these concepts and strategies efficient to fully experience Life in your own terms? If the answer is no, you might be ready to change those patterns, to breakthrough from the inside out. I invite you to enter the season of T R A N S F O R M, where we say enough of this! I am more than this and I take my POWER back! We claim our power, we say enough to those patterns we have built within ourselves as we get closer to authenticity. We get ready to move to a higher energy state.
I recently attended an EpiEnergetics program in which we work at a high-intensity pace to connect with the truest version of ourselves and this is becoming easier and easier as my awareness has expanded. It is empowering to know that we have the ability to tap into ourselves for wisdom, what a beautiful gift! There is a world of relevant information available inside us! And it is nothing less than extraordinary. One of my most powerful tools to tap into my inside resources has been Network Spinal care and breath work(I use Somato-Respiratory Integration). This approach is challenging many times, others effortless, it requires to confront ourselves and our stories; it invites us to discover, transform and awaken our inner rhythms and gifts to the world.
So are you ready to T R A N S F O R M? Stand up tall and feel your breath rise towards your elevated chest, breath nose to nose experiencing the energy of this movement, getting stronger with each breath. And say: Eh! No! Ugh!!! of this! This is the message I want to share in this writing. Transformation is a time to purge towards the core of us, time to peel the layers that leave us stagnant. As we acknowledge where we have been stuck, we awaken new possibilities where we can find ourselves as the embodiment of Universal Intelligence. So let your inner constellations shine bright and bold! Allow yourself to deconstruct your social construct and reinvent what you hold as true. Imagine the story you dream of when you connect with your soul. What you wish for the future generations to come? It's time to pay closer attention to: the job, the status quo, family and peer's perceptions, to trying to make your parents proud by meeting their expectations(many times we set these ourselves), the social talk, the pinterest, the images and conversations in all social platforms. This social world is so openly available 24-7, it often fogs our own reality with pictures showing only pieces of other people’s lives. Be mindful not to adopt these social platforms as your reality and just appreciate it as you would a piece of art; open for interpretation or sometimes ignored and used as inspiration occasionally.
If you have read this far, please feel certainty that you are meant to exceed the vision for yourself. Dare to say “enough” to the mentality of being just enough. Come and day dream with me that all those “enough”s can be transformed into wholeness and beyond. We can remind each other we are not just enough, we are as whole as the day we entered the world and a bit more extraordinary than that. Women and men, you are whole as you show up in the rawness of the moment, when you connect with your soul and are willing to be seen. We all need reminders that being enough is no longer enough! Let’s strive for more, for Wholeness! And let’s do it together…connect with me @WavesChiropractic